Choose to Be Happy!

By the time Audrey Rindlisbacher was 19 years old, her father and two close friends had passed away unexpectedly. Through these trials Audrey learned for herself that life is very fragile. She knew that we have to make the most of the day we are in, because we never know when it might be the last day for us or someone we love.  

“Many people live as if someday they’ll arrive at “happiness” like one arrives at a bus stop. They figure that someday everything will fall into place, they will take a deep breath and say, ‘Here I am at last…happy!’ Hence their life story is one of ‘I’ll be happy when…'” ~Andrew Matthews

When we relegate our happiness to the future, we rob ourselves and others of the chance for deeper connection, joyful moments, and greater fulfillment. The mindset of waiting to be happy keeps us from seeing all the beautiful things in our lives right now. When we realize that happiness is a choice, that it is, “something we make inside ourselves,” we are able to shift our focus from all the things that are making us unhappy, to all the things that can bring us happiness and fulfillment every day.


Listener’s Guide:

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2:29        Why We Are Unhappy
3:22        Happiness is a Decision
4:45        Audrey’s Story

5:55         “Learning in Wartime”
7:37         I Made a Decision-Andrew Matthews
10:23      From T
he Hiding Place
13:54      How Can I Be Happy Today? 
15:38      Sharing Gratitude


Quotes from this episode:

“Truth seldom is sweet; it is almost invariably bitter.” ~Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn 

Being happy can be one of the greatest challenges that we face and can sometimes take all the determination, persistence, and self-discipline we can muster. ” ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

If we’re unhappy, it’s because life is not as we want it. Life is not matching our expectations of how it ‘ought’ to be. We want the future, not ‘the now’. We don’t want what is, we want what isn’t. Too much of this and you go crazy.” ~Andrew Matthews

Life is not perfect. Life is about being exhilarated, frustrated, sometimes achieving, and sometimes missing out. So long as we say “I’ll be happy when…” we’re deluding ourselves.” ~Andrew Matthews

Happiness is a decision. Many people live as if someday they’ll arrive at “happiness” like one arrives at a bus stop. They figure that someday everything will fall into place, they will take a deep breath and say, “Here I am at last…happy!” Hence their life story is one of “I’ll be happy when…” ~Andrew Matthews

Each one of us has a decision to make. Are we prepared to daily remind ourselves that we have only a limited time to make the most of what we’ve got, or will we while away the present, hoping for a better future?” ~Andrew Matthews

The world is not perfect. The degree of our unhappiness is the distance between the way things are and the way we ‘think’ they ‘ought’ to be.” ~Andrew Matthews

Value people. Don’t go to bed angry. Let people know how much they mean to you. ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

Make today one you would want to end on. ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. ~Abraham Lincoln

It’s not what happens to us in life that determines our happiness as much as the way we react to what happens.” ~Andrew Matthews

You’ve got today. That’s all you’ve got. You might as well be happy. ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

We clothe experiences with our words and with our thoughts. We determine what meaning to attach to the experiences we have.” ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

We can change the way we think by first, changing the way we talk. ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

If you want to be happy, be happy!” ~Audrey Rindlisbacher

Happiness isn’t something that depends on our surroundings. It is something we make inside ourselves. ~Cor ten boom

Feed and nurture your happiness by focusing on what you have. ~Audrey Rindlisbacher


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